The Covenant...

I am no longer my own, but thine.

Put me to what thou wilt, rank me with whom thou wilt.

Put me to doing, put me to suffering.

Let me be employed by thee or laid aside by thee.

Exalted for thee or brought low for thee.

Let me be full, let me be empty.

Let me have all things, let me have nothing.

I freely and heartily yield all things to thy pleasure and disposal.

And now, O glorious and blessed God,

Father, Son, and Holy Spirit,

Thou art mine, and I am thine.

So be it.

And the covenant which I have made on earth,

Let it be ratified in heaven.

Amen

--Wesleyan Covenant Prayer

For the past three years, this is has been my anthem...my daily prayer of remembrance. The reminder of who I am and what I've committed to. 

John Wesley's prayer resonates with my spirit and his words are a deep well of confirmation of what faith really is.

I have found it is easy to pray these words when life is good. When there is security in the future, money in the bank, and joy in the heart. 

It is easy to say "Thy will be done" when His will benefits me.

It is easy to say "put me to suffering, bring me low, and make me empty" when joy overflows and blessings are abundant.

But I know, even in those good times, that the covenant isn't one I can take lightly.

For it is much harder to pray "let me have nothing" when I truly have nothing and it feels as though there is nothing left for Him to take. 

When my heart aches and the dreams are crushed and loneliness consumes and that covenant's ties bind hard and feel more like a noose than a lifeline.

When the heart cries, "Why, Lord?" and the soul yearns for relief from one attack after another.

When there is no strength left and my faith feels weak from being poured out again and again, and I fear that my brittle spirit will break.

Because it usually gets worse before it gets better, and the fighting is on all fronts and I am battle weary.

When the finances are depleted and the rent needs paid. When the loved one's diagnosis steals the greatest joys in life. When the spiritual attacks are strong. When you have to keep it all together or no one will. When loneliness steals the joy and the bitterness festers.

That is when the covenant is hardest.

And it is in those times when I have realized that the covenant isn't for this world.

It is a covenant that binds across the bridge of eternity.

'And the covenant which I have made on earth, Let it be ratified in heaven.'

One day, all will be brought to light. All of the trials and questionings will be revealed and I will see clearly the reasons behind them.

For now we see through a looking glass, darkly;
but then face to face; now I know in part;

but then I shall know fully even as also I was fully known.

1 Corinthians 13:12

What is done here on earth, the disappointments and trials, are simply the shadows of glory.

Though we now live in the shadowlands, we will one day walk in the unveiled reality of eternity and we will understand that the pain and suffering were just the longings that couldn't be satisfied by this world.

And there, dwelling in His glory, that covenant will be confirmed and it will mean more...for we walked blindly in the valley, committed and trusting that He would bring us through it.

Sweet hour of prayer...

It was one of those days.

I had just tuned in to live stream the IF:Prayer gathering, excited to pray with women all across the globe...and my computer died.

 

Had just gotten the charger plugged in and the live feed up again, when my sweet babe decided it would be a good time to "sing" at the top of her lungs while racing around the living room with my cell phone.

I got her settled quietly with a book and examined my phone only to realize that she had gooed it so thoroughly that the speaker now makes a crackling noise--compliments of those two top teeth coming in.

Again, I focused on quieting my heart to pray. We were praying through Jesus's High Priestly Prayer in John 17, when I saw her reaching for my mug of now cold coffee.

I wasn't fast enough.

My white slip covered chair next to the side table is stained.

I'm not happy.

I pull the mischievous baby away and grab paper towels to mop up the mess.

My Bible now has coffee stains on top of the red Kool-Aid stains from that kid tripping with his drink during my youth lesson last year.

I exasperatingly wipe the well-worn and pen-filled pages and turn around.

The baby has shredded the roll of paper towels.

Again, I am on my knees in front of my computer, trying to come before the Throne of Grace, all the while fending little fingers off the keys of my computer.

The speaker is talking about prayer and gratitude. Thanking God for His holiness amidst the trials of our lives.

Ellie cries and I pull her onto my lap, which allows her better access to the keys--she's clever that one.

After multiple closes and reopenings of the webpage by flailing baby hands, I'm ready to give up.

This "sweet hour of prayer" is not so sweet. In fact, it's downright frustrating.

Those days when I could spend hours at a time talking to the Father, fully present and pouring out my heart, are few and far between anymore. It's discouraging.

And in my frustration and exasperation, I am startled by the truth.

I look at my sweet baby.

See her arms reaching to be held. Her eyes begging to be seen. Her voice crying to be heard. Her little heart longing to be noticed by me--begging for Mama's attention.

I see myself in her.

I am her.

I so desire to be noticed and heard by my Father, that I flail and yell, crying for His ear and attention, that I completely miss what He wants to say.

I fill my time in prayer with my own agenda, my own words, that I ignore His implore to be still.

Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for Him.

Psalm 37:7

The mystic, sweet communion is not one-sided. It isn't just a time for me to lay my burdens and cares upon Him but it's also a time for me to hush and lay my heart open wide to receive His words and rest in Him.

I love the moments when my little one is quiet and simply resting in my arms. When I can hold her and shower love upon her with no frenzy or flailing about, no restlessness or crying. When the hurried heart and busy hands are still.

It is in those moments when she listens. When she can easily hear what I am saying--no distractions or interruptions.

But I have calmed and quieted my soul, like a weaned child with its mother;
like a weaned child is my soul within me.

Psalm 131:2

My prayer now, today, is that my mouth will be shut, my pride will be crushed, my heart will be open, and I will be still, that I might hear the Father. That my communion with Him will be just that--communion. Not just a one-sided conversation, but an intercourse of my giving praise, repentance, and  requests; and receiving His truth, healing, and strength.

 

In repentance and rest is your healing. In quietness and trust is your strength.

Isaiah 30:15

When dreams change...

I had that dream once.

Thought I would change the world.

Thought I'd grow up and do something big--something great.

I get it, mama. I do.

I get how hard it is to find your big purpose when the dishes are piled in the sink, and soccer practice conflicts with the church event, and dinner is PB&J again because you forgot to thaw the meat in time, and there just isn't time for much world changing.

I've been there, friend.

I've been one who has punched the clock, 9 to 5 and sometimes 6 or 7, because there's always work to be done, and the bills need to be paid, and you take what you can get in these economic times. I've woken up to the alarm and dreaded the day of working to live and not living to work, but put in the time anyway because we don't all get to change the world with a big dream.

I've felt that feeling of drowning in nothingness. Of feeling like I'm never going to make the difference because I'm shackled to the daily grind--the never ending "day in and day out".

And I've known the deep yearning to do something. Something of value, of huge change, of dreams coming true. I've felt it. Daily.

I've felt the disappointment at seeing others changing lives, following their hearts, and living their dreams and wondered what in the world am I really doing?

I love being a wife and mama. Love seeing my husband's and baby's beautiful faces each day. They make my world go round.

But, I have heard that voice whisper often, "What difference are you really making? Lots of people are wives and mothers and workers. Nothing you do will change the world."

And it stings. Because what tangible change have I made?

What will I leave behind when my days are past? What dreams will I have actually fulfilled?

I struggle with the earthly hope of being someone special--someone who makes a difference--all the while knowing that God has called me to this place called here. This place called now.

I have been called to be present. To be the reflection of Christ to this world I'm in. To my husband, to my child, my friends and family. This is living the dream.

And that, I am learning, is enough.

I am enough.

Me, with the crazy, messy hair, the t-shirt covered in spit-up and spaghetti sauce, and jeans with the knees worn from playing and praying on the floor.

Me, with the atrocious grammar, the simple degree, and the pitiful bank account.

Me--Mama, Wife, and Worker.

I may never change the course of history. May never be known for a great accomplishment. May never make a big difference. May never have my name recognized beyond my family and friends.

But I want to be able to stand before my God and say I did my best to show His love, grace, and mercy in my little corner of life--in the daily grind.

So, my dreams of being a world-changer have changed.

Today, I will fulfill the most glorious dream of being a child of the Living God and find the beauty in the calling to be present where He has placed me.

And maybe, just maybe, in setting my dreams beyond this world and living for the next, I may find that I have changed the course of history...that I will have made a difference in the realm beyond. Be it only in showing His light and love to those I come in contact with or that in pressing closer to the Father, others might be encouraged to do the same.

Therefore if you have been raised up with Christ, keep seeking the things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your mind on the things above, not on the things that are on earth. For you have died and your life is hidden with Christ in God. When Christ, who is our life, is revealed, then you also will be revealed with Him in glory.

Colossians 3:1-4

So, yes, my dreams have changed.

And being wife, mama, worker, and worshipper? Those are the stuff dreams--real dreams, present dreams--are made of because He has given them to me.

Because what I do here, though it be simple and mundane, can make all the difference in the world beyond.

A deep and quiet love...

There's an old man going to bed alone tonight for the first time in fifty years.  A man who has loved with a deep love.

He had met her while stationed overseas. They fell in love, the soldier and his beautiful, Asian flower. He married her and brought her home with him, and it was there that they lived their happily ever after. Kids, a house, and love.

She was independent, he said. Never asked for help.

He spoke of how they had had so many beautiful years--so many memories woven into a life's tapestry.

They argued over who would go first, when they picked out their grave plots, not long ago. Picked out a bit of earth-- side by side, just as they had always been.

He was supposed to go first, he had said, through the tears.

He spoke of his love to anyone who would listen, his voice thick with emotion.

He wept when making the calls to his children--wept at the gaping hole he felt.

Tears fall when I hear his story.

It wasn't particuarly different from many, I suppose.

Nothing grand or extravagant. Just a simple story of a love--quiet and deep-- between two souls.

But I was moved. Moved beyond any knight-in-shining-armor love story I've heard.

Because this love--the soldier and his lady's?--it wasn't stuff of fireworks and sunbursts, but a steady love that built its home brick by brick, year by year, weathering storms and sunshine until the very end.

And I pray, as I hold my husband's hand and listen to the old man's story, that our love will mirror his. That our children--when the years pass, and hair turns grey and the skin weathers-- will look at us and they will know of that love.

True love.

Not the stuff of fairy tales and songs, but the deep, quiet love that breathes life into each other's soul.

The gentle love that gives and gives and doesn't seek in return.

The love that is so rich and deeply rooted in Christ, that fleeting thrills of passion look like frail leaves blowing in the wind.

The kind of love that sits quietly, side by side, hands clasped tightly, through the good and the bad.

A love that doesn't need to be shouted from the rooftops, glorified and praised--but the kind that will kneel together in prayer and humility.

The love that grows with each passing year and thrives on the hopes and dreams of the other and weeps together in the failures and trials.

The love, that even in the midst of the argument, whose hands still find the other's and holds tight.

The kind that laughs together and finds joy in the other. That sees the good, the bad, the ugly-- and presses deeper into the hug.

The love that is strong when the other is weak. That carries the other that last long mile. That prays the other through the storm.

That is the love I want our children to see and remember.

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude.

 It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;

 it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.

Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 

Love never ends.

1 Corinthians 13:4-8

So I pray tonight for the old man and his broken heart.

That he might rest in the peace of the Father and be comforted by the deep, quiet love that moved our hearts to tears.

How to see without eyes...

They tell me of the young Kogi boys, high in the mountains of Colombia, that live until nine years of age, in almost complete darkness. Chosen at birth as future priests, they are raised by their mothers and older priests in a dark cave to attune to their god before they enter the outside world.

The young priests are taught to see without eyes. To see the spiritual without the physical and then when they are of age, they are released to see the world with their physical eyes.

And I wonder--as I watch those children running down the Sunday school hall, listen to those teens share of their youth trip, or look into my baby's eyes-- how are we, the Christ-followers, teaching our children to see the spiritual?

We with our faith written on our shirts and jewelry. We, with our pockets full of scripture and way of salvation. We with our hallelujah hands, our loud amens, and our promised prayers.

We with our study lessons written neat, with PowerPoint worship slides ready, with our praise songs on the radio.

We with the verses quoted, the Disciples and Books of the Bible memorized, the Sunday school attendance stars neatly in a row.

We are teaching our children how to live their faith in this world...but so easily we forget to teach them of the spiritual world.

The reality is, that we don't teach much of what we can't understand.

We teach our young to pray. To thank God for the food He provides, for the needs in our lives and in the lives of others. We teach them to make it a habit--and well we should.

We have taught them prayers but what have we taught them of Intercession? We speak of the power of prayer but do we live it? Do we truly believe that pounding the doors of Heaven again and again could truly make a difference?

And though we teach our young to memorize the Full Armor of God do we actually teach them to utilize it during a spiritual attack? Can they even recognize a spiritual attack to begin with or will they just see everyday struggles and trials?

We speak of the battle we are in against the Enemy and his darkness, but do we really, truly believe it wages even now, or do we tend to use that metaphorically? Like the boogeyman, is our enemy more of a character in the book, than the one who seeks to ensnare and trap us daily?

My heart has long been burdened by this.  Now that I am a mother, it weighs heavier each day.

How do I, a child of dust, teach my own child to see beyond this realm and into the spiritual? How do I teach her--show her-- that this life we live is a reflection of the other, a mere taste of things to come? How do I teach her to see without eyes?

How to I instill in her a desire to seek out what she cannot see or, frankly, understand?

How do I show her by example when daily, I myself struggle with focusing my eyes beyond the temporal? When I barely can keep up with the clamor and the to-do list a mile long in this world?

But I am learning, that all she can see right now is my putting action to words.

By not only telling her when to pray but showing her how to intercede on behalf of others and being the first to bend the knee and the last to rise.

By not only teaching her memorize scripture but to apply it to every situation and see His grace flow.

To not see each day as a box on the calendar, a check mark to complete, but a day to fulfill His calling.

To stand firm against an attack, not by writing it off as "life, disappointment, or happenstance" but as a battle to be won with prayer and faith.

By instilling in her that no relationship is more important than the one with her Father.

That no success or accomplishment can match the joy of Heaven.

That no education can compare with her spiritual knowledge.

That these daily doings and deeds are simply a means of seeing His hand in our lives.

By reminding her daily that though we live in a dark world, we the Christ-followers, can see clearly because we are of the Spiritual realm.

You, however, are not in the realm of the flesh but are in the realm of the Spirit, if indeed the Spirit of God lives in you. And if anyone does not have the Spirit of Christ, they do not belong to Christ.

Romans 8:9

Those boys high in mountains of Colombia? They might know better than we do.

They might know that when living in darkness, physical eyes are of little value.

Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see,

This is what the ancients were commended for.

Hebrews11:1-2